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Did you know that you spend around 90,360 hours at work during your lifetime? I usually only write about my job in the most vague terms but work is, and always has been, a really important and vital part of my life. A hundred years ago, when I left my first professional job, I remember it felt like somebody died. At the time, Andy, who, shockingly wasn't in touch with my emotions, asked me why I was felt this way. I told him I was so upset because I felt like I was leaving my family. I can still remember, clear as day, when I gave my resignation. I had just taken a ride in the Oscar Meyer wiener hot dog mobile (Yeah I know I had an awesome job) and I felt incredibly sick to my stomach. I went home that night and cried like somebody died. I remember Andy asking me why I was so upset and I wasn’t sure how to articulate it. Looking back now I better understand why I had such a visceral reaction to leaving my employer. I think part of it was because it was my first real job. I think …
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From I'm Not Worthy! to Treat. Yo.Self.

A couple of years ago, I found myself in a Joanne Fabrics. It was one of those rare occasions when I had several hours to myself and I was in the vicinity of a shopping plaza. For me, I find it cathartic to push a cart up and down the aisles of a craft store like Joanne Fabrics or, I’m ashamed to admit, Hobby Lobby. I feel, in those moments, that I’m surrounded by possibility. Maybe, just maybe, I’ll feel a little bit happier in life if I buy that wooden sign that says DREAM in cursive lettering. I know I’d be a better person if I just finally learned to sew. I would truly be happy in life if I repainted every room in white, got all white furniture, and bought all of the those glass jars and votives down there in aisle 7 and put them on my fireplace mantle. In these moments, I feel possibility, innovation and the opportunity to reinvent myself through consumerism and home decor.On this particular day, a few years ago, reinvention was at my fingertips. I was holding one of those reusa…

Dear Charlotte on Your Birthday

Dear Charlotte, It’s hard to believe that eight years ago you were born. I’ll never forget that day. I’m sure eight years feels like a really long time but it feels like a blink of an eye for me. I write this letter to you today knowing that you won’t read it, at least not anytime soon.I wanted to write to you to say that I am sorry.When I first found out that Caroline had a disability, I read a lot of articles online written by parents and experts. I distinctly remember one of the articles recommending that parents of a child with a disability should have another child. That may seem a little crass to some people, but I understood what the author meant. Of course, when I had you I was just beginning to feel something in my gut that told me that something was going on with Caro. The timing wasn’t great because I had no idea what hit me by having a toddler and an infant ,let alone a toddler with behavior problems and an infant. Your first days and years on this planet were equally beau…

Need a Working Mom for Your Next Panel? Don't Call Me.

I’ve been a working professional long enough now that people start asking me to talk to emerging professionals about various topics in the workforce. Unfortunately, what irks me is that the most frequent topic I’m asked to speak about is work/life balance. I let anyone who knows me know that I have a lot to say about a lot of stuff and of course, as the mother of two children, I can't help but have a lot to say about work/life balance. Yet it bothers me that this balance is what I am "most well known for" in the professional realm. Sometimes, I wish people wanted me to speak about the other things in my professional life that I know a lot about. I’d like to think that I do a lot of things well and maybe there's someone out there who could learn something from what I have to say about it.Today, however, I realized that on the outside, it must look like I do a really good job of balancing working full-time and managing a household. I guess I should be happy about that …

The Magic of Marriage

I am certified to administer the Myers-Briggs type indicator. I have found this psychological tool to be incredibly beneficial, both to the clients I work with, as well as for myself. Sometimes, when we are in situations with conflict, the start to a resolution is understanding that we all think, organize ourselves, and make decisions in very different ways. I have previously written about Andy’s and my differences related to our personality types, particularly the last dichotomy of the Myers-Briggs. The final dichotomy tells us about someone’s outward orientation to the world and the letters are J and P which stand for Judging and Perceiving. I am a J and Andy is a P. Just to refresh you about the MBTI, J's are planners. J's are people who think ahead and plan ahead and have color-coded planners and checklists. They have a hard time veering from a schedule.

P's are the people who go with the flow. They may not have a planner at all or they rely solely on their mind to kee…

Chasing Plastic Buckets and The Mystery of Time

This past weekend I returned to my childhood home to pick up my kids who'd been with my mom for the week and to have Easter dinner with my family. When I was younger, I knew that I wanted to move away from home. I'd never wanted to be one of those people who grew up and then stayed and lived in the community I was brought up in. I'd never even considered it as an option. Now, in just a few hours, I can drive through the amazing Berkshire Mountains, cross the line between New York and Massachusetts, and be home in time for lunch. That feels like the perfect distance - no pop in visits but not too far to hop in the car in an emergency.

While, most days, I’m busy juggling work and family and all the responsibilities that come along with it, I am able to get home every few months. When I do return home, no matter the season, I’m always amazed at how beautiful it is there. My parents' house is situated next to a lake which is really a relatively small man-made pond. Their ho…

Your Feedback Needed: My Business Venture!

I believe that I have an entrepreneurial spirit. Over the course of my adulthood I have come up with a number of exciting entrepreneurial ventures. From a scrapbooking B&B to a website dedicated to things that happen in the bathroom, I put my creative mind to use to come up with some pretty cool business ideas. Unfortunately, Andy, and everyone else in my life with whom I’ve shared these ideas, have told me that, while all of my ideas might be interesting, fascinating, or funny, they would never get off the ground or make any money. Since I’m rather adverse to risk, I respected their opinions and trusted their judgment. Yet, I just can’t help myself from coming up with more entrepreneurial concepts on any given day.  My most recent one likely would not produce any income, like all of my other ideas. However, I feel I need to share it because it truly aligns with my skill sets and strengths. I’m not afraid to be shut down so I’ll go ahead and share my idea with you and see what you…