The Biggest Fear
- Be kind to others. Treat them as you wish to be treated.
- Eat a good mix of veggies and fruits along with junk food. Don't drink soda. Drink water.
- Brush your teeth and please, please floss!
- Wear clean underwear.
- Make your bed. It will make you ready to start your day.
- Stand up straight. (Yes, do as I SAY, not as I DO.)
- You can have just as much fun sober as you can drunk. But if you do get drunk, have a friend close by to hold your hair back and to turn you over if you puke.
- Travel as much as you can. Meet people different from you and be open to their differences.
- God is in you. Nobody else can tell what that word should mean to you.
- You don't have to wait until you are married to have sex but you should wait longer than you want to...it will make it more exciting for a longer time.
- Consider applying to Mount Holyoke. You don't have to go there but....
- Blood is thicker than water whether or not you like it. Friendship is also like blood.
- We are Red Sox people.
- Pay it forward.
- Laugh at yourself.
- Math is useful. Learn how it works.
- Dance, sing and love as much as you can.
If something were to happen to me, I know that my friends and family would pick up where I left off. I learned most of this from them anyway. I know in the end, she would be ok. This however, is not my greatest fear. Here is my real secret: I think I really need her more than she needs me. Anyone who has decided they are ready to be a parent, anyone who has wanted a child, knows this fear.
The moment we conceive, or start an adoption process, and welcome a child to our home, she has our heart forever. Man, I had no idea how much I needed Caroline. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, our children included. I can imagine there is nothing more painful (whether you are 20 or 80, whether your baby is a 9-week-fetus or a 50-year-old man) than outliving your child. To all the moms and dads out there who have lived this pain, I think of you whenever Caroline throws a temper tantrum or draws on our newly painted wall or sits on the door of the dishwasher. I think of you when I am too tired to parent. I think of you when I'm up at 4 am rocking her back to sleep, for my lifetime full of lessons to impart pales in comparison to what she has taught me in only a few years.